In the Monza and Brianza province of Northern Italy’s Lombardy region lives a bright-eyed woman named Laura Mesi, a woman who saw a long relationship crumble in recent years. Yet from the ruins of that long-term love affair gone wrong, she has risen and found marital bliss in her own unique way. Mesi had told friends that if she didn’t meet her soulmate by the age of 40, she would still get married — to herself. And recently, the 41-year-old fitness trainer followed through on her plan.
“I firmly believe that each of us must first of all love ourselves,” Mesi told Italy’s La Repubblica newspaper. “You can have a fairytale even without the prince.”
Mesi’s nuptials certainly had all the trappings of a fairytale wedding. She wore a gown that cost nearly $12,000, had about 70 guests on hand to celebrate the occasion, a three-layer cake, and afterward she went on a whirlwind honeymoon to Egypt.
Mesi said she came up with the idea of marrying herself, a movement that’s been gaining traction in recent years and is known as “sologamy,” while she was contemplating the breakup of that 12-year relationship. She also says that she’s not opposed to a relationship with a man someday, but emphasizes that “my happiness does not depend on” a man. She is reportedly the first woman in Italy to have married herself. Earlier this year, in Naples, a man reportedly took the plunge and said “I do” to himself. (It’s worth noting that the government doesn’t legally recognize self-marriages.)
Mesi, who posted her wedding photos on Facebook, has received some insensitive remarks from commenters, but she hasn’t let them ruin her marital bliss. “Nothing and no one can turn off my smile,” she said. However, she cautions anyone who might be thinking of taking a similar plunge that a self-marriage might not be for everyone. Two things she says are essential to making such a marriage work: Financial independence and “a pinch of madness.”
Well, you know what the song says: “When a moon hits your eye, like a big pizza pie — that’s amore!”